Real Shit: A Person Only Treats You How You Allow Them 2

"A Person Only Treats You How You Allow Them Too"

It took me a long time to understand this statement. I use to think, "how is that so, I can't control one's action so how am I responsible". Then I realized...I am responsible for how I react to other's action and any repeat actions I allow to affect me. If you do not like the way someone is treating you let them know. If they continue the treatment then walk your ass away. If you want someone to change you must change as well to show you mean business. People learn their boundaries by experimenting what actions you accept. If your reaction is always the same just stop, I don't like it, and/or empty threats they will continue to taunt you.
This is very important when dealing with relationships. I'm going to share my experience and how I came to this conclusion.

 I have someone in my life that I feel treats me like shit at times. I am not receiving the treatment that I know I deserve. (Keyword: deserve. Deserve I should be demanding.) Yet I am still in contact with this person. Nothing about my actions have changed. I am a much weaker version of the person I was before he came into existence. And trust me we have been through some shit and thru thick and thin I have been there, can I say the same about him? No. But why am I here? I'm here because I am stuck on what that person use to be and the treatment I use to receive. I have neglected off present acts. My ass is still stuck in the past.
I've complained and complained about his treatment. I've attempted to walk away but I'd get all wrapped up in the past hoping for it back. I have not stood up for myself. So he continues to treat me as he feels because he know he can. Guess why!! Because I have allowed him to with no real consequences just empty threats. I've come back for more and more pain. I help create this monster.
So today I realized that the person that I adored no longer exist. He no longer cares about my feelings because I have allowed him to control them by accepting his treatment. He has the power and he loves the control. He gets off on seeing me hurt. He does not give two fucks. He is not my friend. And I'm not taking this shit anymore.
As of next week, I will continue this journey that I've attempted so many times. I will not allow him to hurt me anymore. There will be no warnings, no empty threats, no complaints but a simple Fuck YOU..I'm done with this shit. I will mourn the death of the gentleman he once was an accept him for the asshole that is he. And if I turn around on this journey, I will blame myself for any pain that is endured. It's a long, hard, and rocky road ahead but I will be a much stronger woman than I am now.